Last fall, my daughter’s Doctor commented to my daughter that I (their mother) didn’t have a life. She was correct, sort of, maybe. Today, almost a year later I guess I still don’t have a life per se.
Not having a life, is not a good thing on many levels. Overall I don’t recommend it, and I have advised people and written, for years, that everyone needs to have a life. What I have meant is that we all function much better, living in balance and moderation.
Balance and Moderation are the keys to a good life.
Balance and moderation in everything are the key ingredient to happiness, love, success, and reaching our goals. Trying to achieve any of these things from an unbalanced place will only result in unbalanced results. – Amanda Ricks
For example, starvation diets are very unbalanced and never work in the long term. But slow healthy changes are balanced and result in success.
However, when I refer to myself as not having a life as I did earlier, I don’t mean that I’m trying to live on celery. I do indeed have a life it just gets a little wonky sometimes.
For the last eight-ten months, for various miscellaneous reasons, my daughters have been my top priority. Plus, a bunch of unexpected work-related problems erupted. It’s been a crazy, off-balance, tiring last few months. But today, as I sit in my “unbalanced,” “not having a life” life, I look at both my daughters with pride. They have grown, matured, and blossomed. Both of them have made some great strides forward in their teen lives.
Actually, we all have grown, individually and together.
And to be honest, I don’t regret one second of my so-called crazy life. It has helped my daughters achieve who they are today. It has brought us all to the right place. Plus, I am a Mother, and this is what Mothers do.
I do it from a place of love. The best and most profound love I’ve ever known.
So, my response to the Doctor who commented about my life last fall, I say:
Sure, sometimes my life might get a little unbalanced, but that’s okay because I do have “A life.” “My life” includes two beautiful daughters among other things. That’s “my life.” – Amanda Ricks